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Wait... can you say that?!
For a field that prides itself on helping people talk about things that nobody else talks about, there are a lot of things we don’t talk about. And by "we," I mean therapists. Things that don’t fit with the image of the “good therapist” that lives in our heads—or in the heads of other therapists.
On A Therapist Can’t Say That, we get real about what it’s really like to do this job.
We’re going to unpack the cliches you’ve assumed every other therapist believes, and speak out loud the thoughts you’ve thought no other therapist has had. We’re going to let it get messy, complicated, and uncomfortable. And we’re going to say it’s okay for therapists to disagree—even in public—without immediately accusing each other of being unethical.
Season 3 Ep 11: Redefining Psychiatric Constructs with Dr. Miri Forbes
If so many of us can agree that our diagnostic constructs need updating or reimagining, how do we do go about that? Today I'm in conversation with Dr. Miri Forbes, an expert in psychopathology who is doing innovative research on creating more empirically-supported diagnostic constructs.
Season 3 Ep 10: What We Talk About When We Talk About Diagnosis
Even if you never use diagnosis, the language and concepts of psychiatric diagnoses are out there. It shapes our professional discourse, past and present, and increasingly impacts our clients’ thinking when they arrive in our offices.
Season 3 Ep 9: Epistemic Justice in Diagnosis: Exploring Borderline Personality Disorder with Dr. Awais Aftab
Dr. Awais Aftab and I dig into whether Borderline Personality Disorder is “real” and what that means, how it relates to the philosophical concept of epistemic injustice, how context influences the utility of a diagnosis, and more.
Season 3 Ep 8: The Medicine of Intimacy: Embracing Anger in Therapy
I want to explore some of the reasons why we might get angry with clients–some situational, some due to the very nature of the therapeutic dyad–and where we go from there, even if it gets messy or uncomfortable.
Season 3 Ep 7: Getting Into It: Overt Conflict with Your Clients with Dr. K Hixson
Be honest. When you think about overt conflict with a client, is your first thought that it’s a site of exciting progress, full of potential for movement?
Season 3 Ep 6: How to Stop Treating Your Clients Like Your Parents
Our journey towards treating our clients as independent adults begins with acknowledging our childhood patterns and the wounds we still carry. This self-awareness is not only a path to personal growth but also a key to improving our professional practice.
Season 3 Ep 5: From Childhood Wounds to Therapeutic Wisdom with Dr. Karen Maroda
Our shared experiences as parentified children not only draw us to this field, but according to today’s guest, they fundamentally influence and shape how we practice once we become therapists.
Season 3 Ep 4: Therapy in the Shaky Landscape of Contemporary Neuroscience
In a relatively young field like neuroscience, paradigm shifts, misconceptions, corrections, retractions, and foundational remodels are inevitable. Which causes problems when the paradigms we’ve adopted as true turn out to be mistaken.
Season 3 Ep 3: Unraveling Popular Ideas: Challenging Neuroscientific Narratives in Therapy with Kristen Martin
Writer and cultural critic Kristen Martin joins me to unpack some of the all-too-common misrepresentations and over-interpretations of neuroscience and the implications for our field and the people we treat.
Season 3 Ep 2: Finding Our Place in the Lineage of Therapeutic Practice
Contending with therapy’s history opens a dialogue between ourselves and our forebears in ways that move the profession forward and bring us together in solidarity and kinship. And that is a project worth taking on.
Season 3 Ep 1: Between Mysticism and Modernity: Reclaiming the Jewishness of Therapy with hannah baer
If you go down a list of the founders and early theorists of therapy, you’ll find that many of them were Jews. Writer and therapist hannah baer, joins me to fig into therapy’s Jewish roots.
Introducing The Kiln: Revolutionizing The Therapy Training Landscape
Riva and Dr. K Hixson have joined up to create The Kiln, a comprehensive supervision and training program for pre-licensed therapists in Oregon.
Season 2 Ep 12: 10 Things I Have Learned in 10 Years as a Therapist – Part 2
To wrap up season two of A Therapist Can’t Say That, I’m continuing my reflections on my ten years as a therapist.
Season 2 Ep 11: 10 Things I Have Learned in 10 Years as a Therapist – Part 1
After ten years of being a therapist, when the work I do has become part of the mundane fabric of my day, I still remember so clearly the magic of being so in it with my first client. So today, I’m reflecting on ten years of being in this field.
Season 2 Ep 10: Client Relationships in the Trenches: The Role of Self-Validated Intimacy
Today, I’m digging why so many parentified children end up in this field, and how the drives of the parentified child help and hinder us in this work.
Season 2 Ep 9: Immediacy in Therapy: Breaking the Fourth Wall with Dr. K Hixson
Today, my dear friend and colleague K Hixson returns for a conversation about immediacy and why we believe that it is such a potent tool.
Season 2 Ep 8: Paradox, Love, and the Therapeutic Journey
Inspired by my conversation in the last episode with Dr. Andrea Celenza, today I want to talk about tolerating paradoxes and about love in the context of therapy.
Season 2 Ep 7: Let's Talk About Sex: A Humane Approach to Sexual Boundary Violations with Dr. Andrea Celenza
To guide us in wrestling with this very fraught subject in a deeper, broader, and more generative way, I am so excited to bring you my conversation with psychologist and author Dr. Andrea Celenza.
Season 2 Ep 6: The Vulnerability of the Therapist as Client
Being in therapy as a therapist, and being a therapist for therapists, is a bit like magicians trying to entertain each other. We’ve studied the tricks and techniques. We’ve seen behind the curtain and we can’t pretend otherwise.
Season 2 Ep 5: Behind the Scenes: When Therapists Become Clients with Dr. Elena Herrera
Why is it so hard to be in therapy as a therapist? Why is it so hard sometimes to be a therapist for other therapists? I’ve been wanting to do an episode on therapists as clients since I conceived of this show, so I’m excited to share my conversation with Dr. Elena Herrera today.